Is it normal to not worry yet?

[HuBBs5150]

I am geting married sept 7th and I don't really feel the pressure yet. The wedding planning is done. Me and the fiancee were looking at houses yesterday too and we saw a couple that we like. One was affordable the other we are looking to see if the seller will negotiate a price drop. And after that i still don't feel the pressure. Oh the fiancee does and she does have her bridezilla moments.

This is normal right?

[muffdiver]

It is normal to feel some pressure for sure....! Lots of things to worry about.
Saying NO to chics hitting on ya,turning down sex by chics, getting bjs from chics,chics wanting to take ya on a trip,chics wanting to screw ya in your office or car......All out the window ,bud.



J/K with ya Hubbs....Yes, you will feel a lot of pressure,it just hasn't hit ya yet..

Now ,the pressures and stress of divorce...That shit fucks you up for a long time,hope you never experience it....


Just messing around ....Good Luck with everything mate,it's a good thing...

[Kimmie5150]

You know, the pressure didn't hit me until I looked inside the church and realized what was about to take place, it went away as soon as I made it down the aisle. Marriage is what both people make it. Working and supporting each other together. There is no reason to worry as long as you both love each other and are getting married for the right reasons.

[willy4pres]

I got married last year, I didn't feel anything until the week of the wedding. I was pretty much not involved in any of the planning, I just payed for everything. My wife handled everything until that last week and then I took over. I didn't want to get in the way with the planning, the details are more her thing anyway, it's our wedding but in reality it's her wedding. That last week was crazy, we had people from all over the country and I had to keep track of them all. We had her entire family staying on the Marine base (nice hotel rooms for only $32.00 a night) but I needed to escort them on and off the base. Doesn't sound like a big deal but her family evidently will not sleep past 6:00 am and they must get their morning coffee by 6:30 am (all 20 of them plus the kids). I lost ten pounds in five days and spent about $5000-$6000 more then I planned. This is how my wife thinks you work a budget. Make up dollar amount that won't make me jump out the window, buy whatever you want, pray to God it all equals your budget.

Our $7000-$8000 small wedding in the end cost me about $17,000 (cash).

Oh yes, and then there was the small detail of finding another place to have our rehearsal dinner (the original place had a fire two days before our event and couldn't support us). And the wedding planner my wife hired decided to go into an advanced stage of Alzheimer’s (not kidding) so we had to coax her through the ceremony. It worked out great and none of the guests could have noticed what happened to her, but it was sad though.

[Otis5150]

Whatever you feel or don't feel is normal, for you. Everyone reacts differently. It's good that you're not getting stressed yet, but don't be surprised when it hits you - as it probably will.

Not trying to scare you, but my first time around I was fine up until about three days before the wedding. The I started having all kinds of stomach issues - which I won't get into, for the sake of good taste - and i usually have an iron stomach. I didn't sleep at all the night before the wedding.

I'm getting married for the second time - "breaking back into prison", as my friend puts it - on December 1st and I'm just starting to feel a bit of nervous excitement; which is probably better than what happened last time. Of course, being 11 years older probably helps too.

Whatever happens (or doesn't), you'll get through it. Best of luck to you and your fiance!

[Bugs Meanie]

Congrats Hubbs!! Maybe you're not feeling pressure because you're looking forward to being married and getting the whole thing over with. That's how I felt. For me the ceremony was great but the reception killed me. 300 people were there and I felt responsible for making sure they all didn't think the whole thing sucked. If I was extremely gregarious and social I might not have minded but I had a tough time with it. Try to stay laid back and enjoy it. Congrats again.

[lightemup55]

Don't worry HuBBs, I'm in the same boat(getting married September 8th) and I still don't feel any different. My fiancee and I have been together for 8 years and engaged for 1 year, so maybe the feeling of utter fear has worn off on me during the years. I look at it this way, just roll with it and don't worry, you will start feeling a little nervous the closer your wedding day gets.

have a great one

[Stiil_A_Fan]

Marriage is great till the kids hit their teenage years, then things go strait down hill. Mortgage, insurance, car payments, Utility bills, medical bills, aggravation taxes, Midlife crises, just try to stay friends Best of Friends.

[chefcraig]

The sad fact is that marriage will remove one's balls faster than a stray dog on Bob Barker's lawn.

Relax. Believe it or not, you more than likely will not even notice the change, once it occurs.

[5150]

Im in the same boat too. We're getting married June 7th of next year, but we're both stressed out. We are putting money down on our reception tomorrow but have no clue where we are getting married. We have a year to go, and bridezilla here wants to have everything done now so we're not stressing next year.. .

[Otis5150]

The sad fact is that marriage will remove one's balls faster than a stray dog on Bob Barker's lawn.

Relax. Believe it or not, you more than likely will not even notice the change, once it occurs.

Don't keep it all in, Chef. It's not healthy. Let it out. Tell us how you really feel.

[Judgement Day]

Well, I don't really feel too different yet (just got engaged on May 18), as of right now we are planning on getting married May 17, 2008. As of right now I am really looking forward to it but we have yet to really plan anything and neither of us know how we are going to pay for a wedding. Oh well I am just happy I found someone that is a soulmate. Huge wedding or not just being together is what matters to me.

[Red]

Shit man, I'm having trouble finding someone I want to date at this point. But for $17 large, I think I'll just continue being the never-married/no kids guy in the family. Screw it, let 'em wonder.

But seriously, I hope all you folks are blissfully happy with your impending ruptured nuptuals.

[m4rk0]

I got married about 11 years ago, and I didn't stress for one second.. not even on the day itself.
The good part is that my wife is not the type to want an absolutely perfect wedding day, so we both just wanted it to be a fun day, no stress.

[eden]

I am geting married sept 7th and I don't really feel the pressure yet.

This is normal right?

yes, denial is a very normal experience...


no really, I think it's important to not over-analyze things. There will be plenty of stressful moments, days, even years to come.



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