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    FOXSexpert: To Be a Dominatrix

    When it comes to career aspirations, most women don’t think whips, ropes and handcuffs. But word on the street is that many women are turning to freelance fetish work to keep up with their expenses.

    With “kink” more mainstream than ever, educated, professional women are putting on their leather. And they have many wondering: What’s the appeal of being a dominatrix?

    “The toughest job you’ll ever love” has taken on a whole new meaning. When it comes to sex work, being a dominatrix is no walk in the park. After all, they do have to wear spiked-heeled, thigh-high boots.

    Far from the fantasy figures they enact, some are moms, employees with day jobs, consultants and freelancers looking to supplement their income for a more affordable lifestyle. Others are unemployed professionals or students needing money for food and tuition in a tough economy.

    Becoming a dominatrix — a female who takes a dominant role in bondage, discipline, domination and submission — is an attractive option for these women because:

    — It offers the convenience of early or nightshift work;

    — It enables cute women with bodies bigger than the Barbie-esque figure desired of strippers to work in the sex industry;

    — It provides a woman with the opportunity to flog some of the bankers responsible for the current financial mess.

    But the fact that they are able to avoid intercourse is the main reason your “average” women in need of cash are going this route.

    Plus, the money isn’t bad (though nowhere near the $500 an hour call girls rake in). A dominatrix makes up to $200 a shift, and the hours don't have to be steady. But these are definitely “don’t quit your day job” gigs. While we do hear of a few women making a killing at a fetish party ($1,000 a night), these stories are the exception to the rule.

    With a number of them not even interested in kink, this is a temporary situation for many. Being “glamorized hookers,” as they’re often called, is not easy money. These women work hard. While they do get to run around in black lingerie, garter belts, and stilettos, this is no lounge-around-Victoria’s-Secret fashion shoot.

    First, they need to be trained in techniques like whipping and caning. They need to learn how to use the tools for sex acts involving bondage, paddling and sexual torture.

    Once with a client, there’s an interview process. They need to find out more about his expectations beyond any initial booking requests. This requires a skill set. The mistress must be:

    — Sensitive to others’ sexual fantasies, thoughts and emotions;

    — Open-minded and self-confident;

    — Empathetic to others’ wants and desires;

    — Good in the art of seduction.

    And this goes for all of her clients. While many dominatrices have regular clients, they also field men who are up for the occasional sexual adventure. Clients from all professions and all walks of life come through their “dungeon” door. The one wish they all have in common: They want the full, deluxe service.

    Following the interview, there’s a warm-up foreplay component. But this isn’t your typical woo me, touch me, talk sexy pre-game. The dominatrix becomes a counselor of sorts with clients who like to talk about their sexual needs, desires, fetishes and the experience to come. For most clients, she is the only safe space where they can confide their most private sexual thoughts.

    It is also during this time that the dominatrix works with the client in figuring out how she can best indulge the fetish.

    You can imagine that the intensity of focusing on another person — the individual’s feelings and body language — with behaviors labeled atypical by most, is exhausting. While offering the glorified, Hollywood-style dominatrix experience, these women handle what some call girls and prostitutes can’t or won’t. So is it any wonder that many mistresses and clients consider this a bonding experience?

    Being a dominatrix or “pro-domme,” as they’re know in the industry, is nothing new. Some have been in the industry for years. They either freelance or work regular shifts at a commercial dungeon.

    The industry stands to expand if the economic crisis doesn’t end soon. And with that, some women, although it may sound strange to others, are perfectly fine with going to a job where they're actually called “ma’am.”

    Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc.

    She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."
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    Legalize IT!

    And in THIS case, IT...be 'prostitution'.

    You do this, along with marijuana, you have BILLIONS in tax dollars, you free up police on the local, state and federal level and save MILLIONS, if not BILLIONS, in the so-called War on Drugs and War on Sex.

    Hmmmmm......makes so much sense it'll never happen.
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    dominatrix services aren't illegal, that I know of as they seldom if ever involve intercourse.

    Though I am a proponent of legalizing prostitution and all drugs.

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    Now there's an idea!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by stilleddiesangel View Post
    Now there's an idea!!
    Especially if Eddie needs a personal dominatrix.
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    Being the sweet little thing that I am, I wouldnt hurt a fly... HOWEVER... if a man would pay me for it... hmmmmmmmm.......
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    Quote Originally Posted by broken9500 View Post
    dominatrix services aren't illegal, that I know of as they seldom if ever involve intercourse.

    Though I am a proponent of legalizing prostitution and all drugs.
    I'm pretty sure it's not illegal as long as there is no sex. However, we should absolutely leagalize - and let's not forget tax heavily - drugs and prostitution. It would get us out of the financial mess we're in right now in no time. Practically, the government has been fighting expensive "wars" on drugs and prostitution forever and no progress has been made. People are not going to turn into potheads or start going to hoookers because it's legal and the fact that it's currently illegal isn't stopping anyone who already does either.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Otis5150 View Post
    I'm pretty sure it's not illegal as long as there is no sex. However, we should absolutely leagalize - and let's not forget tax heavily - drugs and prostitution. It would get us out of the financial mess we're in right now in no time. Practically, the government has been fighting expensive "wars" on drugs and prostitution forever and no progress has been made. People are not going to turn into potheads or start going to hoookers because it's legal and the fact that it's currently illegal isn't stopping anyone who already does either.
    why should we tax it any more heavily than anything else? I've never understood that notion...that somehow people who engage in sex, cigarettes, booze, gambling, drugs...somehow they should pay more than someone who doesn't...like it's some priveledge that society is bestowing upon them in exchange for them carrying a disproportionate tax burden.

    Any tax on these sort of things should be just the same as any other item...perhaps the sex trade would have an extra fee on it to help support health and hygiene programs among the workers but that's really about it.

    Someone who wants to pay for a hooker, roll the dice in a casino, buy a beer, grab a smoke, or get high should not have to carry a greater financial burden, in as much as tax, than someone who wants to buy a bible, drive a muscle car, climb a mountain, build choppers, collect expensive guitars or antique guns. Sales/consumption tax based on the amount of the purchase and that's basically about it.

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    Well, cigarettes are taxed more heavily for two reasons: 1. to try and discourage people from using them and 2. to help cover the healthcare burden when they aren't discouraged enough.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stilleddiesangel View Post
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    Quote Originally Posted by billy007 View Post
    Well, cigarettes are taxed more heavily for two reasons: 1. to try and discourage people from using them and 2. to help cover the healthcare burden when they aren't discouraged enough.
    in the state of texas they say that the extra tax on cigarettes goes to education. They've been making a big deal about that for years.

    If there's extra tax on cigarettes to cover extra costs of health care (i'm assuming they're talking about smokers WITHOUT their own health insurance) THEN WHY ISN'T THERE A SIMILAR TAX ON BIG MACS?!

    If we're going to tax unhealthy things that cause increases in medical care, I want taxes on fries, big macs, milk shakes, hohos, twinkies...because obesity and diabetes cause a lot more problems than smokers.

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    well, you could be right with that. But there is a difference in that the person standing next to me eating a Twinkie or a Big Mac doesn't affect my health in the process.

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    Quote Originally Posted by billy007 View Post
    well, you could be right with that. But there is a difference in that the person standing next to me eating a Twinkie or a Big Mac doesn't affect my health in the process.
    perhaps not directly but obesity and diabetes is a far greater burden on the health care system than smoking or boozing or any of the other things that carry the burden of a "sin" tax and realisticly, especially in today's society, you're getting a great deal more carcinogens blown in your face by a host of other things beyond the occasional smoker.

    If we're going to tax cigarettes or booze at a higher clip to offset health care costs, fine. Issue everyone an ID card that gets scanned when they buy a pack. Then, the tax they pay gets put into a health savings account that gets used if they end up suffering from a smoking related illness.

    If we're going to tax things in order to discourage their use because society no longer wants to tolerate such actions and behaviours then they need to be outlawed period. Let's just get it over with. Make cigarettes, pipes, chewing tobacco and booze completely illegal.

    Then, do the same with saturated fats, high sodium foods, sugars, and all forms of junk food.

    But that's not going to happen because in reality, that's not the objective of these taxes...to discourage their use. The objective of these taxes is to increase tax revenue period...and do it on the backs of a group of people that are easy to attack because the rest of society refuses to see these behaviours within the context that it belongs: personal liberty and freedom of choice.

    I'm very very tired of smokers and drinkers carrying more than their fair share of the tax burden just because making them do so is very pallatable to those that don't partake in those activities. ABOLISH HYPOCRITICAL SIN TAXES NOW!

    I'm really frustrated over the fact that the government taxes whoever is most convenient and subsidizes whoever is most practical for its own benefit.

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    I once made the acquaintance of a girl who earned some (haha, some) extra cash working a phone sex line.

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