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    Default On Being A Single Viking.

    Yeah, you read it right. Viking is a single guy. After 3+ years of being together, my fiancee finally came home after being out all night at 7 in the morning yesterday to tell me that she was moving out.

    It's not like I didn't see it coming. Shortly after she started bartending at the local bar, her personality started to change. First, she started having a drink before she came home, maybe once a week, then it was a couple of drinks a couple of times a week. Here lately she was basically getting smashed before she'd come home.

    Long story short, the last time she came home drunk we had it out, and now she is leaving me.

    Obviously, I still love and care for her, but this is what she wants, and it's for the best. For me anyway. I don't have much patience with drunks. The last couple of times we went out together, I would have maybe 2 drinks. I had to stay on my toes for reasons I will get into later.

    For her, I think it will be the start of a downward spiral that won't end very well for her. She has a history of addiction, and her behavior while intoxicated was for the most part to pass out, wake up in an absolute rage and abuse me verbally as well as physically. This could go on anwhere from 15 minutes to 2 hours. Then she would pass out again, and not remember a damn thing about what had just happened. I called it her, 'Jekyll and Hyde'.

    I am concerned for her, but at the same time I have to go on with my life. I am taking the next few days off of work to gather my wits about me, and then I'll be back, and kicking ass again. You can't keep a Viking down long!
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    Damn, that sucks to hear. All appearances were that you were very happy to have her in your life.

    Hope things get better soon.

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    Man, that sucks. It is so sad when you watch someone change before your very eyes.

    It should be required that every drunk who acts like that have video taken of them to show them what they are 'really' like. Might not do anything to change them, but at least they can see the fools they become.

    Hope everything turns out better in the long run for you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by billy007 View Post
    Damn, that sucks to hear. All appearances were that you were very happy to have her in your life.

    Hope things get better soon.
    Things were unless alcohol became involved. I dreaded going out drinking, because I knew what the end result was going to be.
    "Viking - last to sleep, first to rise, last to leave, that's how the Nords of old rocked the house." ~ timmac in the 'Texas Linkers' thread talking about yours truly. :-)

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    Sorry to hear this, Viking. Although the situation sucks and this may have you down for a while, it appears that your outlook, given the circumstances, is in a better than expected place.
    Keep your chin up and, like you said, before you know it you'll be kicking ass again!!
    I hope she can overcome this alcohol addiction. That's a very powerful thing to deal with.
    Good luck buddy and once again, I'm sorry to hear this news.
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    Sorry to hear that, but it sounds like you dodged a bullet by not marrying her. Hope she gets some help and you get back on your feet asap. Hang in there!
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    She'll come crawling back to you at some point. I'm impressed you have more concern for her than yourself right now.

    I grew up with a parent who had the old "Jekyll and Hyde" disease, and it was not fun.

    Being a bartender is not a good thing for an alcoholic. That would be like letting a pedophile work in a child care center or something. Some loser who's at the bar every single night is most likely making a play for her, telling her all kinds of bullshit... I worked in several bars back in the day, and saw plenty of relationships fall apart... Not a fostering environment for a happy family life.

    Keep your head up... When you're ready, find a girl on Craigslist or something, and remember that football season is not too far off.

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    Vike, my Conservative friend

    You were there for me when I was at my absolute lowest a few years back. Let me reciprocate. Although we have never met, I consider you a friend and an all around good guy.

    I may not offer any insightful hints or ideas, that you haven't already thought of, but at the very least I have a good ear to bend.

    And you're right...You can't keep a good Viking down. But you can keep them out of the Super Bowl.
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    I'm so sorry Viking. Hang in there! Always remember that everything that happens in your life happens for a reason, at the exact time it's supposed to. Y'all could get back together and be stronger than ever, or you could end up like me, and be happier than you've ever been in your life. Gotta remove all the negative things to be your best.

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    Damn, your one tough fella for putting up with that. I hope for the best for you two, especially from her addiction. I hope she can find peace inside herself again one day without turning to the poison, among other people. Take care!
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    Vike, I'm very sorry to hear that buddy. A couple years ago, she really seemed pretty cool for ya. Sorry to hear that the poison has crept its way in. I agree with EJ though, that she'll make some mistakes, hit bottom and realize what she's done and come crawling back. You're a good dude and I'd have to think that at some point she'll realize that, and all she's lost. If at that point, you find yourself willing to take a second look, be very clear with her that alcohol is something that simply can not be tolerated in the relationship at any point or it's grounds for immediate and permanent separation. Period.

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    Damn that sucks, Vike.. Right after your birthday

    Just grab that sixstring of yours and let all the feelings rage thru your 5150 cab, man

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    Vike...like I told you a few days ago on your blog, you WILL get through this but I'm just so sorry you're having to go through this (and sorry she's going through the dark place she is in right now, as well). Hang in there. You've got a huge support system here when you need us to listen.
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    You guys rock! And I was taking out a few frustrations through the ol' Peavey 5150 until the thunderstorm hit. No need for death by electrocution now, is there?

    I guess I can drag out the old acoustic, but it's just not the same.
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    Sorry you're going through this.
    You've got the right outlook, everything will work out for the best I'm sure you won't be single all that long - hang in there!
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