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    Default Are you still close with your Best Man, Maid of Honor, or wedding party in general?

    I got married in 1997 and my Best Man was my brother in law. When I got engaged he was the no-brainer choice as my Best Man. We were very close and I always thought of him like a brother. Unfortunately, over the past 10 years we've gradually grown apart for reasons I won't get into and we have less in common. We still get along fine but it's nothing like it was 10-20 years ago. Strange (and sad) how that happened.


    I'm still close with three of the guys from my wedding party but one of the guys has fallen out of sight and we've barely kept in touch the past 5 years. Never in a million years did I think that would have happened.


    How about you guys? Have you lost touch with any of the people that you thought so much of that you included them in your wedding party?
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    I think that is just part of life. Depending on when you get married, if you get married young, you're probably including highschool and childhood friends. Naturally you'll grow apart. I got married 2 years ago, included some college friends, some highschool friends, and a cousin. One has moved to Maui, the other has moved to california, one has moved two states over, another had a kid, another was always a pain in the ass. Funny story, I didn't include my brother in law in the wedding party, but my wife included my sister in hers. There was a little tension leading up to the wedding, but I wasn't really that close with him, so why was I going to have him as a groomsman...???
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    My sister was my maid of honor. We are as about as close as sisters can be. My two best friends and three cousins were bridesmaids. One of my best friends I don't get to see as often, so we're not as close, my relationship with the other one hasn't changed much since high school. As far as my cousins go, family is family.

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    Yep they're still my best friends. But we've all been friends since we were 6 too.
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    I'm still very close with all the people that were in ours except 1 guy I've been friends with since I was 10. I have no idea what really happened but we just completely stopped talking about a year after my wedding. It's weird.

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    My best man was my brother-in-law who it turns out was sleeping with everyone but my sister. They divorced and we were still friends until it became apparent that the only reason he stayed in touch was because I had UT season tickets. When I learned about several threats made to my sister regarding custody of the kids as well as her personal safety, I cut the fucker off. I have never seen a better example of some so utterly two-faced. I saw him again the night before my mom's funeral and had to resist the temptation to punch him in the mouth. Other than that, I am still close to the rest of the wedding party... even the bride.
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    We had a big wedding party. And the guys that were in my wedding were all my close friends (and a brother-in-law). We've been close for just about 20 years now. Now that all except for one is married with children it's less frequent that we see each other, but we are all still close. We all try to plan social events once in a while to get together, whether it's a concert, a overnight trip to the casino or to see a ballgame somewhere or to just go out for a few beers. And we have our annual weekend trip up to a cabin in New Hampshire which is owned by one of my buddies. Summers are good because we all play on the same softball team so we see each other more. They're very good people.
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    My best friend and I were each other's best men, and had been friends for ten plus years. After he and his wife married, we hardly ever spoke. I believe it was because my wife's grandfather died while we were at the rehearsal dinner leaving my attendance for the wedding in the air. I was there at the wedding but his wife seemed to not care for either my wife or me at all after that. Before we were both ever married, I left the family accounting firm and recommended my best friend to take my position. It worked out well for a few years, but he left after stating he was resigning to move out of state so his wife could find a job in her field. At the time, she was a secretary at the firm with a master's in psychology. Eventually word got out that he was in fact becoming my family's competition, even sending letters out to the firm's clients that he was a CPA, when in fact he wasn't and is still not. So many times I helped him out of jams, even after he left the family firm and never once did he say thanks or acknowledge my efforts to help him succeed. Some people are just spoiled brats who think the world revolves around them. It's part of the reason I never want to have close friendships with anyone other than my wife.

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    Yeah, my Best Man lives in St. Louis while I'm still here, so I don't get to hang out with him. But, he's still my best friend and I doubt that will ever change, we have been friends since 1985.

    Things are a little strained right now (with him and my family back home), I have been out of the Marines for over a year and they cant understand why I'm not back home yet. Plus, were actually moving to Idaho early next year and I haven't been able to tell them. So, we will see how they feel about me pretty soon, this isn't going to go over very well.

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    Interesting topic...


    My brother was my best man and we are still close...I actually had to think to remember who else was in my wedding party (course it was 17 years ago)!!!

    I would say I am not in close contact with any of them but we will always be friends because these are guys that I was close to from 1st grade on.

    Interesting comment above about why one of the posters doesnt have close friends today....I'm a bit that way...I have old friends from way back but not really many close friends today...guess I built the walls too high

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    My best man was a friend I grew up with in h.s. and all my life practically. I still see him almost every day since we live in the same town. My other groomsman was my old roommie from college. He's moved around alot and like me, has a problem returning emails/phone calls, yet we stay close. My last groomsman is a different story. The night of the rehearsal supper, his car breaks. He calls and I tell him to be at the church on Saturday at noon. Saturday shows up, no friend. 12:30, no friend. I'm in the back of the church saying, "I'm going to kill the mother fucker!!"-not exactly the place to be cursing. At 12:45, still no friend, so I got my brother-in-law, who was an usher, to step in and walk with my sister. We get hitched and then we walk out the front of the church, loop around to the back so we can go back in and take pictures. As we go out, there's my friend sitting there saying, "Dude, I thought you said one o'clock?". Its not like he got an invite or anything like that prior to. I laughed at the situation, the one time you want your irresponsible friends to be responsible. My wife on the other hand wasn't pleased. She still doesn't like the guy. He and I aren't close anymore, not b/c of that. He moved away and I'm not sure where he is. Plus, he's a weird dude now-not that I'm normal by any stretch.

    My wife had a woman who is practically my best friend and sister be in her party or group or whatever you call it. She and I are still close and talk regularly.
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    I'll let you know if I keep in contact with the bridal party tomorrow, after I get married.
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    My best man is also my best friend since Jr High.......He was my best man in my wedding.....then I was his 4 months later for his

    Two years later my son was born....followed by his sons' birth the next month......Both of our second children (both girls) were born 8 months apart.

    It was strange how our lives paralled each others for a while....we lived in the same area, and our two families often got together for holidays and such.

    I got divorced in early 2006.....and for whatever reason I have not spoken to him since I told him that I had moved out of my house.....we had a few beers that night, talked about the good old days, fading youth, our kids, sports.....I haven't seen or heard from him since.....

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    That's too bad...

    Strange that just cuz you get divorced that you don't talk...That's life ,I guess...

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    Quote Originally Posted by muffdiver View Post
    That's too bad...

    Strange that just cuz you get divorced that you don't talk...That's life ,I guess...
    And all either one of has to do is pick up the phone......yet, we haven't

 

 

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