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    Men Blamed for Marriage Decline but Women's Relationship Wounds Often Self-Inflicted
    Chicago Tribune ^ | 1/21/07 | By Jeffery M. Leving and Glenn Sacks


    The recent census data finding that for the first time the majority of American women are unmarried is being greeted in a largely celebratory tone. One metro daily explains, "Who needs a man? Not most women." MSNBC warns, "Watch out, men! More women opt to live alone." CBS says, "More Women Saying 'I Don't.'" One syndicated newspaper cartoon depicts a happily divorced woman remembering her ex-husband bellowing, "Where's my dinner?! Iron my shirts!! Lose weight!!!" Several others depict women pondering the single life as their fat, lazy husbands drink beer and watch the game. One female blogger summed up the female blogosphere's reaction--"Hurray for all Single Women! You Go Girls!"

    This census finding is now in question--apparently New York Times reporter Sam Roberts, whose recent article created international headlines on marriage's decline, exaggerated. Nevertheless, the message from the Times and numerous other news outlets is clear--marriage is in decline because men don't measure up, and are no longer needed nor often even wanted. Since women have careers now, we are told, men's traditional contribution--financial support--has become largely irrelevant, and men do not now nor did they ever contribute much more than that.

    In reality, men give a lot to their families--as much as women do. The current trend away from marriage and towards divorce and/or remaining single has more to do with overcritical women and their excessive expectations than it does with unsuitable men.

    The most common charge leveled at men is that they don't hold up their end in the home. Men do work, many critics say, but women work, too, and also do most of the child care and housework--the "second shift."

    Research contradicts this. Census data shows that only 40% of married women with children under 18 work full-time, and over a quarter do not hold a job outside the home. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics' 2004 Time Use Survey, men spend one and a half times as many hours working as women do, and full-time employed men still work significantly more hours than full-time employed women. When work outside the home and inside the home are properly considered, it is clear that men do at least as much as women.

    A 2002 University of Michigan Institute for Social Research survey found that women do 11 more hours of housework a week than men, but men work at their jobs 14 hours a week more than women. According to the BLS, men's total time at leisure, sleeping, doing personal care activities, or socializing is a statistically meaningless 1% higher than women's. The Families and Work Institute in New York City found that fathers, despite their greater market labor load, provide three-fourths as much child care as mothers do. And these studies do not account for the fact, strongly supported by federal Department of Labor data, that men's jobs tend to be more dangerous and physically straining than women's.

    To what, then, do we attribute women's discontent with marriage and relationships, and the fact that they initiate the vast majority of divorces? A new Woman's Day magazine poll found that 56% of married women would not or might not marry their husbands if they could choose again--why?

    Nobody would dispute that, in selecting a mate, women are more discerning than men. This is an evolutionary necessity--a woman must carefully evaluate who is likely to remain loyal to her and protect and provide for her and her children. If a man and a woman go on a blind date and don't hit it off, the man will shrug and say "it went OK." The woman will give five reasons why he's not right for her.

    A woman's discerning, critical nature doesn't disappear on her wedding day. Most marital problems and marriage counseling sessions revolve around why the wife is unhappy with her husband, even though they could just as easily be about why the husband is unhappy with the wife. In this common pre-divorce scenario there are only two possibilities-either she's a great wife and he's a lousy husband, or she's far more critical of him than he is of her. Usually it's the latter.

    Despite this week's media homilies, it's doubtful that many men or women are truly happy alone. Much of women's cheerful "I don't need a man/I love my cats" reaction has a hollow ring to it, and sounds a lot more like whistling in the dark than a celebration.

    Yes, there are some men who make poor mates, but not nearly enough to account for the divorce epidemic and the decline of marriage. While it's easy and popular to blame men, many of the wounds women bear from failed relationships and loneliness are self-inflicted.

    http://www.glennsacks.com/census_shows_majority.htm

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phatie View Post
    Men Blamed for Marriage Decline but Women's Relationship Wounds Often Self-Inflicted
    Chicago Tribune ^ | 1/21/07 | By Jeffery M. Leving and Glenn Sacks

    Yes, there are some men who make poor mates, but not nearly enough to account for the divorce epidemic and the decline of marriage. While it's easy and popular to blame men, many of the wounds women bear from failed relationships and loneliness are self-inflicted.

    http://www.glennsacks.com/census_shows_majority.htm

    Bingo!!!!

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    she's a keeper.
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    Wow, women are finally opening their own car doors. Good for them.

    You know what, when these women get tired of going down on their girlfriends, they'll start looking for men again. Let's face it, sooner or later, they're going to have fill that 'void.'

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    Yep.... It's always the man's fault when things go wrong...
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    That's terrible. I know girls like that. Once their looks fade, they'll be alone and a basketcase the rest of their lives, wondering what if and what went wrong....
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    Quote Originally Posted by wham bam will rock View Post
    Bingo!!!!

    First question on a date....

    "Do you like 'Sex in the City"?

    If she answers "Omigod, it's like...my favorite show everrrr!!!"

    "Check please"

    If answer, "No, I hate those whiny, skank bitches".......

    she's a keeper.
    That is exactly right!!!!!!!!!!
    and I will toss in another tidbit, if you are out and Your date plays "You oughta Know" by alanis morrisette on the junkbox. RUN!

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    Ok, maybe we are responsible. But, we have to work our butts off to keep the money coming in to pay for car insurance.....wait is there a connection here?

    A. Women cause more auto accidents than men. Why, because of not paying attention to the road. Insurance rates are like a NASA rocket launched, because the female behind the wheel of her car as to do the following:
    1. Putting on Makeup
    2. Talking on the phone........at a mind blowing speed of redialling.
    3. Reading books.
    4. PMS
    5. Looking around in her purse for things like, MAKEUP, GUM, THE CELL PHONE.
    6. "Eating" and talking on the cell phone. (Double Negative here)
    7. Bad Kids in the back
    8. Day Dreaming about that sexy guy she saw in the store, while hubby is out busting his ass off
    9. Wondering what's gonna be on Oprah today.
    10. Being pissed off at her boyfriend/husband.

    Now, being in the line of work that I do...........I've heard or have seen 6 of the 10 excuses mentioned above.

    But, I will say this, I LOVE ALL YOU WOMEN!!!!!! Because without you gals, us guys would be very very lonely. But, I bet the lotion companies of the world would be doing a booming business. LMAO

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    Quote Originally Posted by Michaels View Post
    and I will toss in another tidbit, if you are out and Your date plays "You oughta Know" by alanis morrisette on the junkbox. RUN!
    If there is ANYONE still playing that song, then I'm gonna run...

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    The only single women thatsay they don't need a man are the fat ones that can't get a man. Give me a break, a dildo can 't fix a leaky faucet or anything else that goes wrong in your house.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Phatie View Post
    Men Blamed for Marriage Decline but Women's Relationship Wounds Often Self-Inflicted
    Chicago Tribune ^ | 1/21/07 | By Jeffery M. Leving and Glenn Sacks


    The current trend away from marriage and towards divorce and/or remaining single has more to do with overcritical women and their excessive expectations than it does with unsuitable men.
    Spandau Ballet says: "True! This much is true!"

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    I'm actually impressed that a majority of you guys understand what's happening. It really has been such a slow change, it is barely detectable to the eye, but the movement has reduced men to slaves and bitches for power women who get their cake and eat it too.

    Guys, you go out with a woman who makes $30 an hour, and you make $17 an hour, but is she going to pay for the date? You pledge your loyalty to her after properly bedding her down, thinking that's what you're supposed to do as a gentleman, but meanwhile she's dodging your calls; and not because she's a good girl trying to ignore her carnal impulses so you will keep respecting her, nope, she's dodging your calls because she's getting group sexed on the side by enough men to make up a football team, and keeping it all a secret. If she wants attention, she has a public display of affection with one of her girlfriends, and watches you approve with your eyes bugged out and a drooling smile. You pick up the check, they go home together and call her personal trainer while you think she's in bed early for church on Sunday morning.

    Everything is based on market economics, and there is a glut of males who would do anything to romance an attractive woman, regardless of how sick she is in the head, how drunk with attention she is from having multiple lovers in the same week, how she's told you so many times she doesn't want a serious relationship, and there the modern single man is trying harder, and just accepting all the dysfunction for the sake of dating some fake titted phony babe with a drug problem, eating disorder and a menu of STDs incubating to sprout black hairs on your tongue.

    But, its all okay because history makes women to be non-aggressive, non-violent, the fairer sex, more rational, righteous and deserving of special rights than men; who have had it their way for centuries, and up until this century wouldn't even let the poor creatures vote.

    Yeah, we men have been fooled alright, and until we all realize this, we are now the bitches.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sickman View Post
    The only single women thatsay they don't need a man are the fat ones that can't get a man. Give me a break, a dildo can 't fix a leaky faucet or anything else that goes wrong in your house.
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    So men are blamed for the decrease in marriage AND the increase in divorce....???












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    Last I checked men still run the world. And women are still pissed about it.

 

 

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