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    advice with chicks

    I think I started a thread about this awhile back, but new situations require new solutions. I went home for Christmas from university and spent some time with a really cool girl. Unfortunately, I'm back at uni (about a 3hr drive away) and am not home until April. I cannot read signals worth a damn, and my only real form of communication is through msn and the occassional phone call. If I am to preserve a potential interest until April, any suggestions on how I may go about doing so, aside from spending time with her when I'm home the few times before April. Keep in mind I have very little to go off of in terms of how she feels, so lemme know whatever you guys think. Send a pm, an email or reply, doesn't matter, any input would be cool.

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    Are you afraid to talk to her much on the phone? Or just don't have the time?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ain't Talkin' Bout' Love
    I think I started a thread about this awhile back, but new situations require new solutions. I went home for Christmas from university and spent some time with a really cool girl. Unfortunately, I'm back at uni (about a 3hr drive away) and am not home until April. I cannot read signals worth a damn, and my only real form of communication is through msn and the occassional phone call. If I am to preserve a potential interest until April, any suggestions on how I may go about doing so, aside from spending time with her when I'm home the few times before April. Keep in mind I have very little to go off of in terms of how she feels, so lemme know whatever you guys think. Send a pm, an email or reply, doesn't matter, any input would be cool.
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    Where should I start? I've never discussed this sort of thing before, so here goes!

    Yin/Yang - one is interested, one is not. One is the leader, one follows. There is no dark without light, no moon without sun, love without hate, happiness without despair. The balance is very important. You just have to decide which side of the hemishere is safer for you.

    Here's what I think. I think you need to lead. When a leader looks back at a dog, the following dog sits down. Have confidence that you are leading, without paying your follower too much attention. She will sit down, slow you down and wonder why you two aren't going anywhere. If you get all sappy, she'll clam up. If you clam up, she'll get all sappy. Decide if you want to be the screwer, or the screwee, and if she straps it on, and pounds you, don't complain - you made your choice.

    Most importantly get out and test drive some other pink. You have to, or you'll go insane. She does'nt have to know, be safe, and don't tell her. If you rely on her from long distance, you will lose a lot of hair, your blood pressure will rise, you'll get funny hair-cuts, zits, hallitosis, and develop a stutter. You must circulate, as it will make the forbidden fruit sweeter, and you'll be able to shield yourself from her kryptonite.

    Remember that she is a chick, not a Goddess. Treat her well, but don't care. Let her put her foot in the pedal, but don't let her steer. Treat her more like a daughter, and less like a mother. Realize she looks good, but has the brains of a pomagranate, and don't expect too much. Stay away from communicating with her best friends, unless they are hot and want to join you and her.

    Okay, that's about it. Stay focused and don't fall in love. There is no such thing, Santa's a drunken fake, and the tooth fairy is a registered sex offender.

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    Thanks guys, and btw I do have the time to call her and such, just still gotta get a feel for it I guess, we're still relatively new to each other but it's been great so far. thanks guys, anyone else, fire away.

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    what is ur history with her and why are you taken so by her?
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    well it began with just meeting her at the mall with a mutual friend, so I got her msn and phone number. We started hanging out. She's gorgeous, is a singer, and makes me laugh like no other girl I've been with before. She's refreshing to me more then anything, and it just seems like she's totally worth it. I took her to the most expensive restaurant back home the last day I was there, which was monday. I think I'll just try and maintain communication while i'm here until I return in the spring, i can't rush it because not only is that always a bad idea but I can't do it while I'm here anyways.

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    Default the best advice? I don't know about that, but...

    Well, I don't know that I would ask this question in a forum setting seeing as you don't really know any of us--you probably are better acquainted with this young woman than you are with us. However, since we're here and I replied, here's my 2 cents: Whether you realize it or not, the best advice can sometimes come from your mother. I followed my mother's advice and now I've been happily married for 7 years, have 2 boys (and one on the way) and are confident in our relationship. Cheesy, huh? Not hardly...

    I know this is too ambiguous, but if you just be yourself and let things happen (rather than trying to force things), then you'll both be much happier. Don't take her to the most expensive restaurants if you can't afford it, and it's not really your style. If that's your thing, then by all means, do it, but you want her to like who you are, not what you are not. It's good that you are talking with her, keeping an open line of communication, but you also need to be a physical presence in her life for it to last in the long run. Girls are really hard to read at this age anyways, as you already know, so just take your time and hopefully things will work out for you. It sounds like a total wuss thing to say, but you really need to be cognizant of her needs and cater to them, too. During my college years, I had my heart broken twice. I thought I needed to be in a relationship, which turns out what I needed was to find out who I was and what I wanted first. My mom kept telling me to play hard to get, but I never wanted to listen. Finally, I did. I worked with my (future) wife at a restaurant, and she wanted to be with me from day 1, but I shrugged it off and played the "friends" game for awhile. I guess this is why a lot of guys have the problem of being in demand when they are with someone and can't catch a break when they are single. Women seem to want the things they know they can't have. Anyway, I'm not saying this will work for you, but if you just listen to her, then you'll figure things out soon enough.
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    Quote Originally Posted by anubis72
    Well, I don't know that I would ask this question in a forum setting seeing as you don't really know any of us--you probably are better acquainted with this young woman than you are with us. However, since we're here and I replied, here's my 2 cents: Whether you realize it or not, the best advice can sometimes come from your mother. I followed my mother's advice and now I've been happily married for 7 years, have 2 boys (and one on the way) and are confident in our relationship. Cheesy, huh? Not hardly...

    I know this is too ambiguous, but if you just be yourself and let things happen (rather than trying to force things), then you'll both be much happier. Don't take her to the most expensive restaurants if you can't afford it, and it's not really your style. If that's your thing, then by all means, do it, but you want her to like who you are, not what you are not. It's good that you are talking with her, keeping an open line of communication, but you also need to be a physical presence in her life for it to last in the long run. Girls are really hard to read at this age anyways, as you already know, so just take your time and hopefully things will work out for you. It sounds like a total wuss thing to say, but you really need to be cognizant of her needs and cater to them, too. During my college years, I had my heart broken twice. I thought I needed to be in a relationship, which turns out what I needed was to find out who I was and what I wanted first. My mom kept telling me to play hard to get, but I never wanted to listen. Finally, I did. I worked with my (future) wife at a restaurant, and she wanted to be with me from day 1, but I shrugged it off and played the "friends" game for awhile. I guess this is why a lot of guys have the problem of being in demand when they are with someone and can't catch a break when they are single. Women seem to want the things they know they can't have. Anyway, I'm not saying this will work for you, but if you just listen to her, then you'll figure things out soon enough.
    Sage advice here - I agree, as I am a mommy who knows everything yet nothing at all. Good luck
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    hahahaha, true enough. BUT I didn't use the word love at all, haha.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anubis72
    Well, I don't know that I would ask this question in a forum setting seeing as you don't really know any of us--you probably are better acquainted with this young woman than you are with us. However, since we're here and I replied, here's my 2 cents: Whether you realize it or not, the best advice can sometimes come from your mother. I followed my mother's advice and now I've been happily married for 7 years, have 2 boys (and one on the way) and are confident in our relationship. Cheesy, huh? Not hardly...

    I know this is too ambiguous, but if you just be yourself and let things happen (rather than trying to force things), then you'll both be much happier. Don't take her to the most expensive restaurants if you can't afford it, and it's not really your style. If that's your thing, then by all means, do it, but you want her to like who you are, not what you are not. It's good that you are talking with her, keeping an open line of communication, but you also need to be a physical presence in her life for it to last in the long run. Girls are really hard to read at this age anyways, as you already know, so just take your time and hopefully things will work out for you. It sounds like a total wuss thing to say, but you really need to be cognizant of her needs and cater to them, too. During my college years, I had my heart broken twice. I thought I needed to be in a relationship, which turns out what I needed was to find out who I was and what I wanted first. My mom kept telling me to play hard to get, but I never wanted to listen. Finally, I did. I worked with my (future) wife at a restaurant, and she wanted to be with me from day 1, but I shrugged it off and played the "friends" game for awhile. I guess this is why a lot of guys have the problem of being in demand when they are with someone and can't catch a break when they are single. Women seem to want the things they know they can't have. Anyway, I'm not saying this will work for you, but if you just listen to her, then you'll figure things out soon enough.
    Interesting, does sound like myself to an extent. Though it would be better if you all knew her and I, it is nice to see what experience has taught you all, and it's better then doing stupid crap like "what does her friend think". thanks guys

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    Quote Originally Posted by anubis72
    Well, I don't know that I would ask this question in a forum setting seeing as you don't really know any of us--you probably are better acquainted with this young woman than you are with us. However, since we're here and I replied, here's my 2 cents: Whether you realize it or not, the best advice can sometimes come from your mother. I followed my mother's advice and now I've been happily married for 7 years, have 2 boys (and one on the way) and are confident in our relationship. Cheesy, huh? Not hardly...

    I know this is too ambiguous, but if you just be yourself and let things happen (rather than trying to force things), then you'll both be much happier. Don't take her to the most expensive restaurants if you can't afford it, and it's not really your style. If that's your thing, then by all means, do it, but you want her to like who you are, not what you are not. It's good that you are talking with her, keeping an open line of communication, but you also need to be a physical presence in her life for it to last in the long run. Girls are really hard to read at this age anyways, as you already know, so just take your time and hopefully things will work out for you. It sounds like a total wuss thing to say, but you really need to be cognizant of her needs and cater to them, too. During my college years, I had my heart broken twice. I thought I needed to be in a relationship, which turns out what I needed was to find out who I was and what I wanted first. My mom kept telling me to play hard to get, but I never wanted to listen. Finally, I did. I worked with my (future) wife at a restaurant, and she wanted to be with me from day 1, but I shrugged it off and played the "friends" game for awhile. I guess this is why a lot of guys have the problem of being in demand when they are with someone and can't catch a break when they are single. Women seem to want the things they know they can't have. Anyway, I'm not saying this will work for you, but if you just listen to her, then you'll figure things out soon enough.
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    shoot her a call in a week or so and wait for her to call back

    if she does..call back again like a few days later but wait for her to call!

    if she don't call back, fuck it..very simple

    and don't go callin back within 10 minutes, yet a lone the first day the first few times

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