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    I cant get a date to save my life!

    Hey people, thats right , I admit it and it totally sucks! I dont know what it is but damm! It seems nothing works and the only chicks that seem to be interested are the married and looking kind. WTF? Im 30 yrs old and must say that I have not been very succsessful and have had some hard times personaly with jobs and my physical health in the last 4 years , but in the last year up till now I have gotten in great shape my confidence is high, so whats the problem? I must say that I have some things going against me : 1) living with my folks, when i lost my job I joined school full time, while working ,I had to move back in this kills me! 2) Im poor these days, well Ive always been poor but Im really poor now. 3) I dont exactly have a nice car to take a lady out in. Does this really matter?

    My mentality is like a I want to go out and have fun and not worry about serious stuff right now except for school but most chicks my age I find are looking for the ONE. And most chicks that are younger than me dont want to mess with a 30 year old. This is just my experience. Hard times!

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    Dude, just be yourself because no chick is worth having if she don't like you for being you.(having a big wang doesn't hurt so I heard! )

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    Quote Originally Posted by the_atomic_punks_rule
    Dude, just be yourself because no chick is worth having if she don't like you for being you.(having a big wang doesn't hurt so I heard! )
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    There's this really gorgeous 21-year-old gal I dig, but she's dating a 30-year-old. Girls seem to dig older guys man. Pretty soon we're gonna have to pick 'em up at the incubator if we want purity!
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    Maybe I'm reading too much into this, yet judging by the tone of your post, I'd say there is a good chance that you may be trying too hard.

    Look at the thread title for further proof.

    This can be quite "off-putting" to folk. If there is even a hint of desperation coming across in a conversation, most people do not want to be around it (and I speak from experiance ).

    You mentioned being in good shape and having confidence...well, there is more to it than that. Being capable of listening to someone, and actually aknowledging /accepting the fact that they they may not be interested with dating you at this time , is an important step...they may feel more comfortable with you at another time, so don't dismiss them altogether and immediately move on to the next "prospect", as it is quite unfair.

    Be reasonable with people, yet more importantly, be reasonable with yourself. There is no time limit here, and it's not like you have some "biological clock" ticking away.

    In summary, lighten up...on yourself, and upon others. There simply is no pressure, only that which you put upon yourself, and believe me...it will show.

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    I was in your position a few years back. I was working, going to school for my master's, living at home, and seemed to strike out on the dating circuit. Finally, I just stepped back and didn't really care if I dated a girl for a while. Then (no lie) less than two months later I met my future wife and mother of our child-to-be. My opinion is to not go looking for a woman because you will never find the future Mrs. that way (if that's what you want)...
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    Give up. It's not worth it. Opt for chemical castration.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phatie
    Give up. It's not worth it. Opt for chemical castration.
    Did that work for you?
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    Don't feel bad Ed, I'm sitting on a goldmine here at university but it hasn't done shit for me yet.

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    Just buy a bunch of porn. It's guaranteed to not dump you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Buschman
    I was in your position a few years back. I was working, going to school for my master's, living at home, and seemed to strike out on the dating circuit. Finally, I just stepped back and didn't really care if I dated a girl for a while. Then (no lie) less than two months later I met my future wife and mother of our child-to-be. My opinion is to not go looking for a woman because you will never find the future Mrs. that way (if that's what you want)...
    Listen to Buschman. I know this may sound wierd but it works. Relax, concentrate on school and believe it or not that can be turning point for you. When I was still single. I was really put off by guys that were trying too hard. They really kind of scared me. Kind of made me step back and gave me a 'what the hell is wrong with him' kind of thought when nothing was probably wrong at all. If you can relax and put it all in the back of your mind it lets your real personality come through. Know what I mean. I know I'm not good with explaining things sometime. But I hope I'm helping you some here.
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    i say you are getting some great advice here,..especially the relax and step back, be yourself kind.Its true, if you go after something like a woman too hard, they push away..but if you create good feelings around you w/o pressure, and just hang out and be friendly w/ people, you'll be surprised at what happens!
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    What many are saying is to develop the "I don't give a shit" attitude. Gals like a challenge just like guys. It's doesn't mean be a jerk, it means just have a good time like you say you want to do regardless whether there's a women involved or not. You'll have to fight'em off with a stick.

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    Yes, it matters that you're poor. I'm not saying that all women want money, but almost none of them want a broke dude living with the folks. Get your professional life in order and the women will follow.

    Sorry if this sounds harsh, but it is along the lines of what the others are saying about focusing on the other stuff. If you demonstrate that you're driven to accomplish something big with your life, that will interest women now, possibly enough to compensate for the fact that you're paying your dues in the interim.

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    I have to agree with what everyone is telling you man. I have been in your shoes once or twice as well, the more lonely you get the less attractive you are to the opposite sex, it just works that way. For some reason I stopped giving a crap about most thing's when I turned 27 (im 33 now), not in a negative sort of way, but more like a "why worry" kind of way. For some reason that works for me, or I should say did work for me, im engaged now, she might be reading this!

    I have also come to suspect that women like a guy that's a jerk at least 20% of the time, I combine this by showering her with little gifts constantly, this way she never know's what the hell is going on.

    Being poor at the moment isn't that big a deal really, super hot chick's won't touch you but there a huge pain in the ass anyway. I think women just want to know that your eventually NOT going to be poor and that your not satisfied with your present situation. Expressing any of your silly ideas on how to get rich (at least at first this works) will go a long way, there just looking for an excuse to give there girlfriends/parents concerning your lack of funds, stuff like that is important to them.

    One last thing, im sure you have a certain girl that you see on a regular basis that you think is hot and she doesn't seem to be repulsed by you. You need to ask this one out the next time you see her. If she blow's you off she blow's you off, but at least you tried, and you can begin the long road of not really caring what there answer is. My ex wife is currently dating a guy that's way below her league, just some regular dude that works at a grocery store (I think he's a manager), he just had the balls to ask her out and now he's dating the most beautiful women he know's. My fiancee used to date this guy that was basically the same thing, he had some nuts, asked her out, and they dated for over a year until I put a stop to that crap, just kidding, they broke up for other reason's, no thank's to me.

    Good luck man, it will work out for you.

 

 

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