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    Would you tell.....

    I have been contemplating this for several days. I’ve decided that I would ask you guys for your opinion.

    I have a friend who I have know since we were five. I went back home a few days ago to look for a place since I have accepted a job back there. While there, I visited with friends, including said friend, I found out (with my own eyes) that his wife is cheating on him.

    I confronted her and she said that I was seeing something that wasn’t there. Apparently, this guy she was with is a good friend of hers. I told her I would let it go, but I know what I saw…there wasn’t any misunderstanding.

    Should I tell my friend? What if I am wrong? She could lie her way out of it, then he would be pissed, and there I’d be. Do I just forget about it and let him find out on his own?

    It is really a crappy situation.

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    I would tell him. I couldn't imagine keeping that from one of my friends, but we tell each other everything. If I was your friend, I would want to know.
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    WOW!

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    As long as you're 150% sure, you should tell him....what did you "see"?
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    That depends a lot on the nature of your friendship. People get pretty defensive about their significant others, and reasonably so.

    I have a dear friend (or he used to be, anyway) who's wife is an alpha bitch. Stupid, insanely jealous, accusatory, violent (physically), and sensitive as all hell. Before he married her, I wrote him a rather nice letter mentioning these things. That didn't go over so well. We see what we want to see at times.

    If he's completely unaware, it'll be a shock to him. He'll be angry. It'll turn his life upside down, and you'll have been the catalyst for that. Not responsible for it, but definitely the catalyst.

    If he's got suspicions, you'll confirm them.

    Either way, if you tell him something will change, unless he's already aware of it. I think you should tell him. If I were him, I would want to know.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rchop84
    As long as you're 150% sure, you should tell him....what did you "see"?
    I saw her kissing him...not a friend kiss mind you....a deep sensual kiss. There was no mistaking it. This was at Taco Bell. They walked out hand in hand.

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    Thanks for all the advice.

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    I would tell him, and tell him to hire a private detective if he doesn't believe you!
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    The thing you have to take into account is that he could blame you for their break-up. Shooting the messenger, if you will.

    I was in the same situation a long time ago, this guy was cheating on his girlfriend and I told her. They both ended up hating me.

    But that's me, and everyone involved was 19 or 20 years old.

    If he's a good friend, tell him.
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    I'd tell him.
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    If he is a good friend I would tell him.
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    Tell him! No question about it.
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    if he is a good friend to you.......then tell him.....
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    tell him...he'll dump the cheating bitch,and start a second bachelorhood .
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    Drop a few hints and let him find out for himself.
    Avoid the direct approach,unless you are interested in getting into a he said/she said scenario.

 

 

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