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    fucked up story

    well unfortunately this week my aunt died-more on that later

    i had to travel from cali to arizona with my dad- got there tuesday and came back thursday afternoon.

    the girl i have been dating called me tuesday to give her condolences and whatnot and i told her on thursday when i get back i wanna go out that night since she gets off work early and go have some fun all things considered..she says ok.

    she calls me today on my way home and says she is going out with some friends tonight cuz a friend is havin a bday party and it is girls night out but i can go if i want and to bring a buddy if i don't mind hangin with all the girls..said ok cool.

    get home and tell her on her vm my buddy can't go so i will just meet her down there later when she gets off work at the casino.


    she calls me back and leaves me a vm saying now she doesn't know if they are definitely goin to the club and she feels bad cuz she thinks she is hurting me and dissapointing me...what gives u that idea?
    LOL! so she says it is supposed to be a girl's night out only and that none of them are bringing husbands, bf's or dates, and that she doesn't want to be the one who does it. ok understandable. don't make plans for wioth me then. i mean fuck on tuesday u said ok, today u said come down, now cuz my friend can't go which would make it look like we were gonna be there, u cannot hang with me? my fuckin aunt just died for cryin out loud. where's the love man? LOL. jesus!

    i mean heck, maybe she felt stressed and didn't wanna tell me tuesday she had plans, but fuckin a man it woulda saved me a lot of grief.

    i am fuckin pissed, but maybe i should not be. if she had just told me it was a girl's night out i woulda been cool with that ya know? maybe she just didn't wanna hurt my feelings and she had plans already. this girl has been nothing but gold to me since we've been together- and i am just bummed considerin the circumstances. i mean i don't expect her to tell her friends-hey joe had a bad week and his aunt died so i am gonna spend the night with him-would have been nice but hey-oh well. but fuck, ya know?

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    That sucks Joe, I'm really sorry about your aunt. Also kinda sad what she did--not to judge or anything, but she should've sacrificed hanging out with her friends to console you!
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    Quote Originally Posted by janthraxx
    That sucks Joe, I'm really sorry about your aunt. Also kinda sad what she did--not to judge or anything, but she should've sacrificed hanging out with her friends to console you!
    I'm thinking along those same lines here. Hang in there Joe!
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    Sorry to hear this, bro.

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    oh and the beat goes on

    just got off the phone with her awhile ago. she says she's not the same jen as she was last week. what? u fuckin morphed all of a sudden?!

    keep in mind this girl is very spontaneous. she said our lifestyles are very different and it's a turnoff. says i like to have things planned and she likes to wing things. ok true. she doesn't wanna feel controlled and i'm not controlling at all. i don't mind when she wants to hang with her friends at all. she wants to be able to hang with them when she wants and says i seem more gung ho about seein her than she feels about seeing me. says i need to see her more than she needs to see me. mind you now, we had a chat on my bday and she said she was cool with shit, and also, we don't see each other any more now than when we started dating or a few weeks ago. actually, it's less sometimes, i that excuse is lame to me imo. also said she isn't keen on the fact i am still at home. sad thing is she never even asked me why i am. i've asked her how she got to that point, i took the interest in it and asked and now i know. so, this can't work cuz my carreer isn't where it could be yet and i'm not spontaneous? puhlease! spare me the bullshit. it goes deeper than that and i know it does.

    she was with this cat for 5 years and engaged and he broke it off with her cuz he wanted to focus on his coaching career. this was 2 years ago btw. i know she was hurt by him cuz a good friend fo mine her actually knew the guy really well and went to college with him. she has been in relationships that just have not worked for whatever reason and has had a lot of hurt and has lost a lot of patience-i know cuz she has told me. says it takes a lot for a guy to prove himself to her. ok fine. gimme a fuckin chance..LOL. ya know? man. and you guys on here who i talk to regularly know how we have been doing. we have been great. this girl is very into me and everything. she's cried with me twice, i've talked to her mom, all kinds of stuff. now this.

    and this shit just bums me out- BIG BIG BIG BIG TIME

    the lifestyle/spotanaiety thing is horseshit far as i am concerned. those are things you can work around and deal with if you really care about the person.

    one night we were together in bed and she was crying-saying how i have been so patient and understanding with her. says how much she cares about me and likes me and would do anything for me. shot her an email and at the end brought that up. told her if u'd do anything for me u'd see how we can work this out. sad thing is this girl is fuckin stellar and has everything going for her and has it cuz she did it for herself. just amazing what hurt and/or bad relationships can do to you-as evident by my aunt's death, which is another story. but people choose to be this way. me and jen have had so many very cherished and special moments thusfar and i'd hate to see em go. good part of me thinks she ain't ready yet. just hope she is willing to see what we can do.

    my buddy who knows her even said she's a keeper man, don't let that one get away. shit-i'm tryin bro- i am tryin
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    Take a listen to .38 Special's Hang On Loosely, and take a cue from that. People gotta go at their own pace sometimes.

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    Good luck bro. That's a tough situation to be in. Hope it all works out for the best though. All you can do is be there for her and respect her feelings, the rest is up to her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MikeL
    Take a listen to .38 Special's Hang On Loosely, and take a cue from that. People gotta go at their own pace sometimes.
    Gotta agree. Give her room to do what she wants and act like you could care less. The next time you talk make sure she's the one that initiates it. I know that can be hard to do when you really care about someone. Turnabout is fair play and if she really cares about you, well, she'll be back.

    Sorry about your Aunt, btw.

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    That sucks, JMJ...first your aunt, now your girl wants to "change", as they often do.

    All I can say is I'm sorry this is happening to ya.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JMJ
    but maybe i should not be.
    Don't be pissed just walk away and it'll all be cool. Sorry about your aunt, it's time for boyz night out, rock on dude with some friends this weekend and forget about her for a few hours, tomorrow go for a hike or mountain bike ride. Do stuff for you this weekend. Enjoy

    But don't waste any more energy being pissed.

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    I am sorry to hear about your Aunt JMJ. Maybe Jen isn't the girl you thought she was, it is better you find out now, than later. She is being rude I think.
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    I agree with Cab and Yank here. Get yourself away from everything that's pissing you off and get with your bro's for some quality jackass time. Grab an MP3 of Thin Lizzy and follow Cab's suggestion of a dude's night out, hit on a group of drunk college babes with your homies. Forget about both the "new Jen" and the "old Jen" for a while....or even permanently. Sounds like she's playing fuckin games anyway.
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    Yea J, I think she's being pretty rude about it. That shit giving you the runaround about going out, then being "girls night out" is complete BS. I'm like you, I don't care, as long as your straight from the get-go, it'll straighten itself out, but don't give me some wishy-washy bullshit story trying to satisfy me. Of course none of us can tell you what the best thing to do is, you know her a million times better than we ever will, so you gotta do what's best.

    Sorry about your aunt, always tough losing a close family member.

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    Sounds like you could use a good guy's night out. Strip club might be in order. That always makes me feel better.

    Or like somebody else said, get the fellas together, go out to some club that's notorious for being a meat market, and then afterward, call this broad that's jerkin' you around and say something cryptic like, "Jesus, we had a WILD night last night." Then don't say anything else. Get off the phone real quick, tell her you're still recovering and you'll have to call her later.

    That'll driver her nuts. Watch as the tables turn and she's on your jock again for a couple days.

    Anyway, sorry about your aunt, man.
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    You blind bastards!! I knew before JMJ's second post that another rooster was in the henhouse!! The 'girls night out itinerary' was ever-changing because the Thursday-return just didn't fit in with the rendezvous. 'Spontaneity' is an easier way to say "I'll have my cake and eat it too". This is high school mentality, IMO.

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