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    Hot For Teacher JonJustice's Avatar
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    You guys are like my second family and I need to vent..
    Last year my wife of 5 years left me for another guy. I'm a good guy, never hit her, never cheated, and wasn't even an asshole. It was very tough to deal with.
    A beautiful girl at work (married) saw this happen and saw how it affected me. We baecame friends.
    On March 14th, she told me she wasn't happy with her husband anymore, and that she had fallen for me. Love. Soulmates. I felt the same way.
    Promises to leave her old man, whom she swore on her kids she couldn't stand, have continuously been broken. As DLR said "I allowed denial to enter my mind". this girl was my best friend, who swore that nothing would keep us apart. She said he knew how she felt. She would not lose me even if it risked losing her kids.
    Well, after a few altercations with this bozo, and whatever, the girl has decided that she can't risk losing her kids for me. I, like a fool, waited for eight months to hope she would do this. I will always love this girl, but i feel that she got into it, regretted it, and took eight months to break it. Now I am burned again. Loser personified.
    Life truly sucks, but i appreciate your time. You guys rule.
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    gee sorry to hear that bro

    i don't know what to say...

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    [img]graemlins/cry.gif[/img] Man I'm so sorry to hear that.
    I kinda know what your going
    through.I was married for almost
    ten years and I found out from a
    friend of mine that my now ex
    husband had not one affair,but four
    affairs on me.He was also an abuser,
    more emotional than physical,but it
    still hurt just the same.I finnaly
    got out and was divorced this past Sept.
    The love part is always hard.I'm just
    taking it one day at a time.You will be
    ok.You have alot of friends here who
    are there for you.By the way my name
    is LeeLee for those of you who don't
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    Sounds like a tough time man, I have been there and feel for you. Hang in there, time will take care of things [img]smile.gif[/img]

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    thats weird, she has been with this guy for 10 years, and her biggest beef....emotional neglect, and abuse.
    Although I wonder sometimes if he was as bad as she said......
    Minnesota Vikings KICK ASS!!!! All other teams get their water.

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    Yep sure was.He started talking trash
    about my family,and you know it's bad
    when your youngest son who is only 3yrs
    goes up to him and says your a bad daddy
    stop hurting my mom.The abuse didn't start
    until two years ago,but the reason I had
    replied before was not to get that kind
    of responce from you.It was to let you
    know I understood a little bit about what
    you are going through and where you are
    comming from.I know I'm new and all but
    take it easy I'm not that bad.I'm a cool
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    Dude, Hang in there. You're only 26 years-old. You got your whole life and a lot of fucking fun ahead of you!

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    Originally posted by JonJustice:

    Although I wonder sometimes if he was as bad as she said......
    Quite possible. Wouldnt be the first person to think they needed to move on, then had a rethink later on.

    Hang in there bro. These women are complicated things.
    A little zen....... Headed your way.......

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    You've got your whole life in front of you and you need to stay strong and realize this. One thing, if you haven't learned your lesson, and I don't mean to be harsh: Stay away from married women and especially married women you work with. I've been down that same road, bro. It's 99% destined for failure.

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    Leykis 101
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    Originally posted by I Coulda Hada VH:
    Leykis 101
    LOL... That'll learn ya for sure!

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    That really bites. But as someone said already, you're a young guy and you'll find that special lady in your life one of these days. There's someone for everyone I say.

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    I'm young, I don't have all the answers, and I haven't been through anything like that before in my life, but I've noticed something. Men and women are both equally likely to remain in bad relationships, but often for different reasons.

    Men usually stay in a relationship - even when they are unhappy and cheating regularly - because of the sense of familiarity. They've been in this relationship for X number of years, it's what they know, and they have no intentions of calling it off despite what they might say unless a mid-life crisis sets in.

    Women usually stay in a relationship through fear or obligation. Typically you'll hear something like, "I'm stuck until the kids are older." Likewise, some women just lack self esteem and assume - right or wrong - that this is the best they can get. They might also fear being alone, having tied their life to someone, and that if they call it off they will be unable to find someone else to care about them.

    My speculation is the women that backed out of being with you likely did so because they feared being the one to end the relationship due to the changes it would bring about in the lifestyle of the children. They're probably worried about the kids blaming them for the death of the marriage and siding with the father over her. I doubt she cares any less for you or is happy with the decision she made, but it is apparent that at this point in her life, her kids come before her own happiness.
    "Just once I'd like to do the right thing and not get punished for it."

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    It's all about the kids. End of story.

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    Been there, and you know as well as I do that it was a bad decision on your part, not hers. Suck it up, stop looking for a little while, and it will find you. [img]graemlins/thumb.gif[/img]

 

 

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